Some people find themselves trapped in cycles where they are having mind-blowing, intense sexual experiences followed by deep emptiness, sadness and shame.
Sometimes, the sex and the people you are having it with aren’t even attractive or exciting to you, but you still find yourself doing it- trapped in a cycle that seems to never end.
Signs That You May Have a Sex Addiction:
When you can’t stop:
- paying for sex
- engaging in high risk sexual behavior with high risk people
- cheating on your partner
- or moving from one relationship to another
…despite experiencing negative consequences and significant disruptions to your life or wellbeing, you might be addicted to sex.
ADDICTION THRIVES IN SECRET
It is not uncommon to have a lot of secrets related to sex when you are addicted to it. The amount of money you have spent in pursuit of sex or a sexual partner, STDs and other health problems that are a result of out of control sexual behavior, children or lovers in other cities, and the overall extent to which sex and the pursuit of sex has taken over your life.
Many of the sex addicts we see are very successful people, highly accomplished and well liked. To that person, it doesn’t matter how successful they are or what they accomplish – they are deeply unhappy and don’t know how to change that. Many sex addicts find it easier to sleep with strangers than to be fully known by the people they care about the most.
When you are addicted to sex, being fully honest or accepted by someone else doesn’t feel like a possibility. You may be well liked, and even the life of the party, but you are often lonely, isolated, and consumed with the fear that you will end up completely alone and unhappy. Nobody gets to fully know who you are because you have to keep your out of control behavior a secret – you will be rejected if people really know who you are. Even platonic relationships can be a struggle; you might have experienced a lifetime of disappointment in your close relationships.
We have seen people who are addicted to sex come to get help under many different circumstances.
- A spouse or partner may have just discovered another affair and is threatening to leave
- Sexual behavior may have escalated to include out of control drug use and other risky behavior
- They may face the loss of a job due to inappropriate sexual relationships with coworkers or customers
- Pending criminal charges due to illegal sexual behavior
- Health problems related to sexually transmitted disease, and still not being able to stop having risky sex
At the heart of all of the reasons for seeking treatment, they are tired of running, tired of feeling worthless and out of control, and tired of not being happy.
YOUR PATH TO HEALING SEX ADDICTION
When you reach out to Healing Paths for help with sexual addiction, you will find trained and competent therapists ready to assist you. We have been trained by the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, the gold standard for sex addiction treatment. We have committed our work to understanding and treating a range of problematic sexual behavior. No two people are alike, neither are the ways that sexual addiction has appeared and impacted their lives. We will work early on to thoroughly understand your specific concerns and tailor treatment to provide the maximum results.
Sex addiction is rarely a stand-alone issue. Our cross-specialty training will allow us to provide you with cutting-edge treatment for relationships issues, substance use issues, and underlying emotional problems, all in-house with your therapist. We will work to understand and to reevaluate the sexual behaviors that are bringing you grief. You will work early on in treatment to develop a Healthy Sex Plan that will go beyond stopping problematic behavior to help you to build the relationships you have been wanting.
Contact us now for your free 30-minute phone consultation with one of our Certified Sex Addiction Therapists.
You can start healing today, help is just around the corner.